Dadgum shower. It started this whole thing. If it hadn’t decided to allow its grout to slowly break apart, water never would have seeped through the cracks and into the floor and we never would have needed to have it retiled, which means we never would have decided to go ahead and make the shower bigger “while we were at it,” and we never would have decided to redo our vanities “while we were at it,” and we never would have decided to rip the old carpet out of our bathroom, and we never would have knocked out the wall of my vanity so we could expand our laundry room, and we never…well, you get the picture. In all my years of dreading home improvements, I never could have predicted that something as simple as a shower could stir up so much mischief.
And I never knew re-doing a bathroom could be so much fun!

First, to get even with the shower for causing so much trouble…

I decided to punish it by having a crew of workmen rip it (and the surrounding bathroom) to shreds.

Take that, shower! That’ll teach ya to leak.

And here it is…our new bathroom!
Just kidding.

As the guys kept themselves busy building and framing the new shower, I had a few days to reflect on what kind of tile to use. It’s probably now that I should point out that tile—tile of any kind—is the one, solitary reason I will never build a brand new house. When it comes to tile, there are just too many choices, too many combinations and permutations possible, and the whole thing just makes my eyelids twitch. When Marlboro Man and I moved into this house—the house his mom built over thirty years ago—I was fortunate she’d had the taste and foresight to have chosen the floor tile she did:

Known as “Mexican Tile” or “Adobe Tile” or “Sautillo Tile,” it’s the only—I repeat, only—floor surface I can imagine having in a house on a busy, messy, dirty cattle ranch. Its subtle range of imperfect colors means I can avoid sweeping for days and days before anyone notices, and what’s the purpose of a good floor covering if it won’t help you avoid domestic accountability?
When we redid our kitchen five years ago, I was so scared of tile, I flat refused to go there—so I chose countertops and backsplashes made entirely of stainless steel sheet metal. I have an unnatural fear of grout, is all I’m saying. And several weeks ago when the contractor gave us the bad news about our shower—“You’ll have to retile it,” he said—I ran screaming from the house. Later, Marlboro Man finally found me hiding in the hay meadow and told me to come back inside, act like a woman, and face my fear of tile once and for all.
And after weeks of soul searching, meditation, and prayer, I did just that:

It’s called Subway Tile.

I think they call it subway tile because it’s commonly seen in subway stations around the world. It’s rectangular, 3 x 6 inches, and is often laid in the brick pattern you see here. I like it because it makes me think of subways, which makes me think of my first true love—The Big City. When I look at subway tile, I’m suddenly whisked away in my mind to a subway station in New York…or an L Station in Chicago…and I always feel centered again, like I’m back where I belong.

Then again, in certain light, subway tile can also look a little like Shawshank Prison Tile.

But that’s nothin’ a little grout and earth-toned floor tile can’t cure!

If anyone reading this is experiencing an unhealthy fear of tile, grout, or mortar, I hope you’ll find encouragement in the words of this post. If I can get over it, so can you.

Subway Tile. If you’re a desperate housewife living in the middle of nowhere on a working cattle ranch, it’s the perfect way to bring the big city to your bathroom!
If only it came with a Starbucks next door.
Next up: “Glass Shower Doors and Shyness Do Not Mix”
September 28th, 2007 at 1:05 pm
I redid my entire bathroom in a “while were at it” fit of home improvement about 3 years ago, and the tile thing was both exciting and terrifying!! How funny, after weeks of careful consideration I picked subway tile too! Although I nearly chose subway tile with a bevelled edge, I won’t show you a picture, because you might decide to rip down what you’ve chosen and start again with those! (I think about it occasionally.)
September 28th, 2007 at 1:07 pm
I love that large shower and the tile is great! I want to tile my kitchen floor, but there are other projects that have taken priority. One of these years…
September 28th, 2007 at 1:11 pm
Yeah, I share your fear, Ree. I hate the knowledge that my family’s ENTIRE COMFORT AND HAPPINESS for the next couple-a decades resides squarely on my shoulders–by the choices I make in the semi-permanent decor of our home. Ick. We have NO flooring right now…okay, so we don’t float…it’s the cement foundation. We HAVE chosen the tile and will lay it soon. I love explosions of color and fun, funky stuff…but I stay quite conservative with my decor–yeah, call it fear. Beautifully conservative.
And, our bathtub faucet is leaking…under the tile and sheetrock…so, I think I will be mirroring some of your journey sooner than later! Thanks for the entry!!!
Oh yeah, JcP used to have a GREAT black velux blanket that I would use as a backdrop for photography. Don’t know if it is available anymore, but thought I would give you a heads-up.
Jenn
September 28th, 2007 at 1:47 pm
I think that shower is bigger than my bathroom. I want one.
September 28th, 2007 at 1:50 pm
That’s a very large shower. What exactly are you planning to do in there?!
September 28th, 2007 at 1:51 pm
This weekend I am faced with choosing my tile for my bathroom upgrade! Yikes! I too want to run the other way…too many choices…too many colors….don’t know how they will work together…what color for the floor tile…then what color do I paint the walls???
Deep breaths..deep breaths. I guess the fact that I know what I do NOT like will help to narrow it down. I like that earth-toned floor you chose for the shower..hmmm…
September 28th, 2007 at 2:14 pm
I love tile. We re-did our master bathroom this year and our main bathroom two years ago. I put slate on our m.bath floor. I love it. I decided on clear glass for shower doors. I absolutely love them, they are revealing, but clearly seeing the slate inside the shower is wonderful. It also makes my small bathroom look bigger. I got a squigee and I can even hear my husband using it after his shower! I found some great cleaning products for natural tile from Don Aslett’s cleaning website. I needed something that wouldn’t damage marble or natural stone. It’s called Time Saver brand non-acid bathroom cleaner and it works. Don Aslett is located at www.cleanreport.com. He has lots of good cleaning supplies.
September 28th, 2007 at 2:17 pm
I am so with you on this. We’re in the process of having all of our bathrooms AND kitchen re-tiled, and I’ve been twitching for days (wrote about it here: http://rocksinmydryer.typepad.com/shannon/2007/09/oh-help-me-inte.html )
But I love your subway tile, and the size of your shower has my jaw hanging open. Does your whole family shower together??
September 28th, 2007 at 2:20 pm
I love tiling. In fact I’m working on a project right now for a back patio, which I’m reporting on periodically in my blog. Tile is great and easy too! Did I mention I love it?
September 28th, 2007 at 2:22 pm
My husband loves to tile. He tiles everything. And then he has no qualms about redoing it, so if it is bad, it will only last a year or two. We redid our bathroom a couple years ago. Another wonderful domestic-accountability-avoidance-tile is slate. Wonderful stuff. We offset our with little green glass tiles, using a pattern in a women’s bathroom in Mexico, into which I dragged hubby to see. Your bathroom looks like it will be great! I can’t wait to see the finished product.
September 28th, 2007 at 2:23 pm
That is a dang SWEET shower!!! And I am afraid of tile, too… which is why my guy refuses to work with it anytime soon, but this is GORGEOUS!
September 28th, 2007 at 2:38 pm
Hey, guys! Thanks for saying hi.
Junebug, I AM getting clear glass shower doors, which means a)I’ve got about a week to get over my shyness about being naked and b) I’ve got to find a good cleaner…so thanks for helping me, with the cleaner thing anyway.
Rocks…yeah, all six of us shower together. Saves water. Just kidding!
September 28th, 2007 at 2:39 pm
I have those same Mexican tiles in my home. I love how they look but I hate cleaning them. Good thing I have a crawling baby punk who sweeps my floor with her bottom and knees. Mommy’s little helper.
September 28th, 2007 at 2:59 pm
why that shower is big enough to make #5 in.
I’m just sayin’.
September 28th, 2007 at 3:12 pm
akk im drooling over the size of that shower!!!!
September 28th, 2007 at 3:12 pm
That shower needs a subway BENCH so you can shave your legs!! You DO shave your legs don’t you? Stunning shower!
September 28th, 2007 at 3:15 pm
Oh, how I would love to be you right now! I live for home improvement! The designing of every detail exactly to your specs. is so satisfying and pouring over choices to find the exact one, having it all come together in a glorious finished product and then……..living in it. Ahhhhhh, how I would love to be you. Instead, we are renting. (Military) Hmmph. One day I will build an entire house. I will, I will, I WILL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Love the subway tiles but love the shower floor tiles even more. Can’t wait to see more.
September 28th, 2007 at 3:17 pm
Beautiful shower! I love the tile choice too..but with such a big beautiful bathroom I would think a women like you would love a big sunk in tub. Some place to drink some wine and relax. Maybe sound proof walls so you can’t hear kids yelling for ya. Ahh that sounds like heaven to me who is a mommy to 4 punks too.
September 28th, 2007 at 3:40 pm
Looking good, Ree. I, too, hated picking tile, but LOVED tiling! Its very fun, you should try it! And grouting — that’s fun too. Now, sealing the grout, run with all your might!
September 28th, 2007 at 3:40 pm
We just bought a house with a roomy shower and clear glass doors. My parents were horrified, my in-laws were amused, and my husband was pleased. Only problem, ours looks straight at the mirror, so I tend to throw a towel over part of it so I don’t have to see me looking like a drowned rat. And, you know, sans clothes. I bought a squeegee but haven’t figured out quite yet what to do with it. Please advise.
September 28th, 2007 at 3:41 pm
Ree,
If you want to look at my bathroom, I just posted some pictures of it on my blog. I have that same tile that you have in my kitchen, dining room, and laundry room. I love that Spanish look, I also incorporated some cobalt blue 6″ x 6″ tiles in for a pattern. Mercy, I love cobalt blue. My bathroom is so small compared to yours, but it is lovely nonetheless. Are you going to have sauna jets or shower heads coming out of the ceiling. I love that spa feeling. You could get one of those teak chairs that you can sit on in the shower to shave your legs. Just like a spa.
September 28th, 2007 at 3:47 pm
There’s a reason your house is in such turmoil. You are suffering from an affliction called “Mazewell Disease”. You can always recognize an attack coming on because it is always preceded by the thought, “We really need to fix that.” Beware of Mazewell. It is insatiable, and it will eat away at your house and your wallet and your sanity. The only cure is to yell at it, and the only words that work are “No More!!!!” That will usually hold it at bay. Alas, the cure is always temporary. Mazewell Disease always returns in 3-5 years.
Fortunately, if you aren’t bled dry of resources in the process, Mazewell Disease eventually runs its course, and the results are often lovely. I’m sure your shower, and your new vanity, and your dh’s vanity, and your wonderful new laundry room (with two washers and two dryers) will bring much satisfaction and pleasure. . . at least until you notice how dull your master bedroom looks in comparison. . .
:o)
September 28th, 2007 at 3:48 pm
There were 118 choices of GROUT for goodness sakes when we renovated our bathroom! I CAN’T CHOOSE BETWEEN CHOCOLATE, STRAWBERRY AND VANILLA, so it about did me in!! (just kidding, it’s chocolate, ALWAYS chocolate!).
Scary giggles on the Shawshank prison reference…subway is much more, um, metropolitan.
Lookin’ good!
I can’t help it…I’ve gotta share our before and after pictures, too…no subway tile for us…but I still love it!
http://pensieve.typepad.com/pensieve/2007/06/before_and_afte.html
September 28th, 2007 at 4:05 pm
…lol…With a shower t-h-a-t big I betcha punk #5 is in the not so distant future!…lol… Aww c’mon Ree, that right ther’ was funny! lol…
…Nice shower too by the way! ~ Love the tile choice!
;o)
September 28th, 2007 at 4:09 pm
Your bathroom is looking amazing! It is HUGE! and I love your tile choices. Great job, Ree
September 28th, 2007 at 4:23 pm
okay, you could fit your whole family, And Ursula AND a few of the other cows you have on that ranch, into that subway shower( sheesh).
What kind of shower heads did you get? Just wondering because I suggest one of those ones that sprays you from every direction and angle. I call it the “car wash” style shower. With all that mud and crap out on the ranch,a car wash shower might come in handy. I’m just sayin’!
September 28th, 2007 at 4:41 pm
I hope you didn’t pick white grout, or else you will come to regret that choice LOL
September 28th, 2007 at 5:48 pm
Gorgeous!! I am dying to find a reason to use Subway Tile… I’ve loved it since I first saw it. How’s the laundry room coming along?
September 28th, 2007 at 5:56 pm
Ooh it’s going to be so pretty!
“And what’s the purpose of a good floor covering if it won’t help you avoid domestic accountability?” That sentence literally made me laugh out loud. Love it! =)
September 28th, 2007 at 6:36 pm
Ree - how the hell big is your bathroom??? It looks HUGE!!! I hope you’re putting glass block on the half wall on the right side of the shower - THAT would look AWESOME!!!
September 28th, 2007 at 6:46 pm
Oh, yes, I picked out subway tile too. In April. It’s sitting in several boxes in my closet. My bathroom still looks like the BEFORE pictures. I’ll be auditioning new husbands if the weather turns cold before the walls & window get replaced.
September 28th, 2007 at 7:05 pm
I feel your pain…picking out tile and grout sucks!! If done correctly however, it will increase the value of your home. But with the market the way it is right now, who is going anywhere!?! Excellent choices, well done!!
September 28th, 2007 at 7:18 pm
PW, I just have one question - if the amazing Subway Tile in your new (fabulous, by the way) shower reminds you of the subway…does it ever bother you that you’re SHOWERING in the subway? I mean, that sounds like my nightmares from middle school. You know, the dreams where you’re just trying to get somewhere, and suddenly realize you left all your clothes on the train that just pulled out?
Maybe it’s just me.
Just a question. Great post.
September 28th, 2007 at 7:52 pm
That is one awesomely huge shower. I always wanted a shower I could lay down in!!
September 28th, 2007 at 8:02 pm
Teah’s comment opened a memory of a story my dad told me 50 years ago.
He had a friend, a salesman, in NYC on business and he went to the RR station coming home. They parked the 20th Century Limited (I think it was) there and let people get on board and go to sleep in the sleeper before they left late at night.
His friend couldn’t sleep so about 10pm he spots a bar across the street, pulls on slippers and an overcoat, grabs a couple bucks and walks over. While drinking a beer, the bartender sees his bare chest under the coat, things he’s a perv, and call the cops.
They haul him to the Police Station and by the time he gets them to call his boss (and wake him up) in Indianapolis, verify who he is and take him back, the train had left.
He winds up in NYC at Penn station with his scivvies, slippers and a coat. Period.
September 28th, 2007 at 9:14 pm
Hang in there. We just ripped out Mexican tile in part of the house and laid new matching tile throughout all the living areas. It terrified me to pick a tile from those little swatches, but it does not show anything, grout is “earth” color. It does have variations of color in it, but is not slate.
Just put subway tile on the backspash in my kitchen. I love it. Think hubby was disappointed I went for something so plain, but I know I will like it for years and don’t want to go through another re-do.
Hope you’re putting doors on that shower. I have heard that the ‘walk-in ” showers are cold and drafty.
We have been re-doing for a year, and are almost done. We’re down to lights and outside doors, etc. now. I know a bathroom remodel is in our future, too (old tiled shower, old shower pan) and it just terrifies me to think of it.
September 28th, 2007 at 9:45 pm
I have to confess… when I read andrea’s comment “Big enough to make #5 in”, I had temporarily forgotten you had four sweet little… punks. And because it was a bathroom, my mind went “Number 5?! What’s number 5? And why would you do that in a shower?! Let’s see, one is pee, two is poo… WHAT is 5?!” Then my synapses started firing in the correct order (I figure they’re like pistons), and I got it. Then I started laughing so hard at myself I was crying. Today’s my 42nd birthday - a sign of things to come? Then I didn’t like laughing alone at my computer, so wrote this down. Now. I feel better.
September 28th, 2007 at 10:14 pm
We used subway tiles about eight years ago in a bathroom remodel. They still float my boat. Each little rectangle reminds me of a magical trip to Paris, where the sounds of city subsidized musicians reverberated off the shiny tiles throughout the labyrinth of hallways leading to the loading platforms. Good choice, PW!
September 28th, 2007 at 10:22 pm
*Ha ha* about the glass shower doors! I don’t prefer them either but there must be a bunch of people who do out there because the last two houses we’ve purchased both have had clear glass doors!
I like how your bathroom is shaping up!
Are we going to get an update on your porch project?
September 28th, 2007 at 10:25 pm
Oh and I agree with the glass block idea. That would look so good.
September 28th, 2007 at 11:16 pm
Okay Carolina Caren, that is the funniest thing I’ve read in a while. I can so totally understand how you saw it that way. You’re not laughing alone anymore!!!!
Julie
September 29th, 2007 at 12:28 am
Timely. I just came in to take a break from sealing the tile on our back porch. Nevermind that I procrastinated for a full year and four months before finally getting around to sealing it. I understand your fear of grout. Did you think about the long and painful process of sealing your tile when you decided to install that much of it? I didn’t. So far I’ve sealed two bathrooms and half a porch. I still have my kitchen to go. Did I mention it’s 10:25 on a Friday night and I can think of about 200 things I’d rather be doing right now besides sealing the tile on my back porch?
Maybe you can get your workmen to do it. I sure would have if I had known that tile needed to be sealed.
Sarah (the domestically challenged housewife)
September 29th, 2007 at 2:23 am
I’d say someone has been watching a little “Divine Design”? LOVE it. Am so jealous. My shower is a tub. An old 1921 tub. Itty bitty. It’s a one butt tub. And a one butt shower.
September 29th, 2007 at 3:01 am
what’s going between the shower and the sink?
September 29th, 2007 at 6:01 am
Pamela, well…that table you see to the right of the shower IS the sink, er…M.M.’s vanity. I decided not to have any cabinets with doorss because I’ll just leave bottles of conditioner (CREME RINSE, for those of you born before 1985) under there for decades.
Carolina Caren, I read it that way, too! “Make #5″—I was trying to figure out what fun activity I’d missed out on all these years. Andrea, see what you stirred up here?
Bob Cleveland, that story kept me up half the night. Ha!
Thank you all for sharing your tile stories/woes. But Sarah CB, what do you mean by “seal the tile?” I’m not aware that I’m supposed to be doing that anywhere. Uh oh…
September 29th, 2007 at 7:07 am
Hey Ree,
Enjoy the remodel - as it is something you do everyday…. AND it could be redone if you find you can’t live with it…just not easily redone. Hang in there, looks great!
I’m guessing you have a fantastic water softening/filtration system to go with the clear glass shower doors you are thinking of - right? My first house (new construction) we opted to go with the clear doors for our 3 person sized shower. Oh, how I hated it due to our hard hard water! I used coatings that ’should’ prevent build up - nope. I squeeged everday - although hubby did not. By the time we moved I spent so many hours using a ton of products - almost had to scrape the hard water spots off the doors. I hope there are better products out now and that you use them faithfully! Um… by the way - can we get the measurements of your bathroom?
September 29th, 2007 at 8:30 am
Actually, Ree, glazed tile is already sealed. The grout needs to be sealed, as it is normally cementitious (made of cement) and absorbs wa-wa.
You spray on stuff that looks like skim milk, let it set, and then wipe it off. No big deal.
September 29th, 2007 at 9:11 am
Try Rain-x on your glass. Just like your windshield, it makes the water run right off! If you have hard water like I do, it keeps those calcium spots from building up. It works on glass block, too. (It gets slick, so do not use it on the floor.) It also means you have to clean it less often. I also have a squeege made of silicone so it is very piable and gets into the grooves. It is a California Water Blade and last time I checked you could get them in the auto dept at Walmart. Definitely seal your grout - you will be happy you took the time to do it.
September 29th, 2007 at 10:50 am
Ooooh so pretty and shiny! That subway tile was a great choice - classic!
September 29th, 2007 at 11:18 am
RE: glass shower doors. I have them and have tried every product and method of cleaning that exists to try to keep the white scum buildup off and the only thing I have found that works like a charm is a squeegee. I know - it sounds anal-retentive but if you take 1 minute at the end of every shower to simply squeegee it off you will make you life a whole lot easier. I’ve been doing this for 2 months, have not had to clean the glass, and it looks brand new.
September 29th, 2007 at 1:49 pm
Sorry, I shoulda added “punk” before #5! But happy to provide a little mind bending activity for some of y’all!
September 29th, 2007 at 1:56 pm
you fear tile I fear carpet. i LOVE tile LOVE IT. I particularly love the look of subway tile. Our shower stall was too small for the subway look - it made me dizzy here is what we did instead
http://flickr.com/photos/fidgetblogs/sets/72157600873092789/
September 29th, 2007 at 8:41 pm
Goodness gracious woman. I tiled my bathroom all by myself. It was easy. I went with black and white (4×6) tiles with white grout. Easy peasy. And it was fun laying the tiles.
My next tiling project? I’m moving to mosaics! And I can’t wait!!
September 29th, 2007 at 8:59 pm
Wait. Is there a door to your bathroom? Or is it just open to your bedroom?
September 29th, 2007 at 9:04 pm
Natalie: It’s open to our bedroom. No door! No walls! No privacy! And get this: I’m shy. Go figure!
Jenny in MN, I’ve had a water softener for five years, but it only worked for the first three months. Life with hard water is difficult, and I’m thinking of picking up a new one, as the hookups are already there. Thanks for the reminder.
Off to find a squeeeeeeeeeegie.
September 29th, 2007 at 10:05 pm
Wow Ree, that shower is big enough to work on adding to MM’s “quiver”. : )
September 29th, 2007 at 10:29 pm
MAN, Ree! That shower *is* bigger than my bathroom. Sigh. I hate tile too but I’d gladly get over it for that! wow! Enjoy!
September 30th, 2007 at 5:06 am
So … your shower is big enough for your entire family. You could stand all four punks in at once and hose them down to get rid of the manure etc. Very sensible.
September 30th, 2007 at 9:39 am
NAKED in the subway YIKES - okeydokey LOL
September 30th, 2007 at 1:29 pm
I can picture all the kids lining up in there to be hosed down.
I’ve always been afraid that my boys would break tile if I got some. We brought home tile floor samples once, set them on the floor, and one was immediately shattered by a dropped dump truck. Do your tiles ever need replacing?
September 30th, 2007 at 1:31 pm
When I asked, “Do your tiles ever need replacing?”, I meant because they were broken by the kids, or a falling object, etc.
October 1st, 2007 at 8:12 am
I know you’re shy Ree. I can’t believe you’d redo a bathroom like this. The shower is big enough to test cows.
October 1st, 2007 at 8:43 am
Wow…what was MM’s mom thinking having such a huge shower that many years ago? I LOOOOOOOOOVE it.
October 1st, 2007 at 6:22 pm
oooh, I just love the flooring! wow, did I just get excited for just a minute about a floor?!?!!
October 15th, 2007 at 9:35 am
It looks awesome! I’m very fortunate that my husband owns a granite/marble company. We all our house the “house of granite”. It is literally everywhere, steps into front of house, thresholds, dust boards, window sills, countertops, he built a huge table and he built me a little seat to sit my hiney on for putting my make up on in the morning! I’m so lucky to have the Granite Man.
You have good taste….
Marissa